Before marriage, there are certain things the couple should discuss and career is part of them. Being married to a workaholic can be frustrating, because he or she may not invest as much time in your relationship as you want.
If you feel that your partner’s addiction to work is beginning to affect your relationship negatively, then you should speak to someone who is more experienced than you are or you can consult a help from a professional counselor.
Here are few tips that will help you cope with a workaholic partner.
Nagging will not help solve the situation. Avoid nagging about your partner’s career or how you feel neglected because he or she is so attached to his or her job. Try and use an objective tone to tell them about the things they missed by working late or bringing back work from the office. You could also share how you and the kids felt their absence in an important occasion at their school or a social event.
Don’t Encourage Your Spouse Workaholism
Avoid putting up attitudes that may encourage your partner’s obsession with work. If you have the habit of staying up late or delaying the family dinner till your partner returns from work or keeping the kids beyond their bed time just to bid their mother or father good night after they return home, then you should stop it. In as much as you try to fit in your partner’s work schedule, remember that it will never be enough. Not only will you keep disrupting your family routine you also will be encouraging your partner’s need or desire to work late.
Learn About Your Partner’s Job
Understanding your partner’s job is really important. Personally, I grew up in a family where my mother was a workaholic and wasn’t having time for her kids but due to the fact that my dad understood the nature of her job which is that of a banker, it was easy for him to cope.
Once you have a better understanding of the kind of job your partner is into, it will help you accept the obligations and limitations better. People who work in the medical field, fire services, critical care personnel, law agencies cannot help being summoned to work at odd hours. Visit your partner’s office, attend official parties or get together, get to know he’s or employee, colleague or boss. If you learn about your partner’s work environment, it will enable you to understand or even take pride in his or her nature of work.
Once you set boundaries about the things you will accept and the things you won’t accept, it will be easier to choose priorities. For instance, you can designate Saturday as a free day in which neither of you pick calls nor sit with the laptop. However, it is better you both start out with short term plans and be open to re-assessing them with changing situations and priorities
Talk To Someone
If you feel that your partner’s addiction to work is beginning to affect your relationship negatively, then you should speak to someone who is more experienced than you are or you can consult a help from a professional counselor. This will not only help u cope with a workaholic but it will also help your partner maintain a healthy balance between work and family.